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Most 1:1s suck. Here's how to fix yours.

I've run over 500 one-on-ones in 5 years managing remote engineering teams. Most started terrible, felt like interrogations, had awkward silences, everyone wanting it to end.

Then I figured out what actually works.

The problem with most 1:1s

• They're just status updates (you could read a Slack thread)

• Managers do all the talking (defeats the whole point)

• They feel like interrogations (uncomfortable for everyone)

• People leave feeling more disconnected than before

• Nobody knows what to actually talk about

What I learned instead

• The meet each other phase is paramount
• How to build trust without corporate BS

• How to give feedback that doesn't feel like criticism
• How to spot burnout months before it happens

• How to make people actually look forward to your 1:1s

This isn't theory

It's what worked with real people on real teams. No fluff, no buzzwords, just practical stuff you can use immediately.

You get the actual framework

• How I drive the meet-each-other phase
• My way of building trust and long term connections

• The "multiplier mindset" - how small efforts create big results
• How I use intrinsic motivation to drive growth

• Red flags for burnout, isolation, and team dysfunction

This helps if you

• Just became a manager and feel lost

• Your 1:1s feel pointless

• Your team seems disconnected

• You manage people remotely

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About me

I'm Carlos (@karloscodes). I've made every 1:1 mistake possible so you don't have to.

Questions? Hit me up on X @karloscodes